The real Power of being Positively Positive!
I always considered myself as a positive person. I always try, no matter what the circumstances are, to see the positive side of things. For me there is always a reason why things happen the way they do. I might not see the reason immediately, maybe in a year’s time I’ll look back and think: “Oh, now I understand” and be glad of the way my circumstances turned out.
Positive and negative are directions. Which direction do you choose? –Remez Sasson-
It is very difficult for all, due to unforeseen and unwanted circumstances, to accept positivity and think positively. People always tend to ask, why me? To ask this in itself is a negative thought. I agree that it is not easy. Before I read: “The Secret” by Rhonda Byrne, I also could not understand why positive thoughts can change the way you look at your life and how you will then, except this and always manage to go on living with a positive feeling. I will discuss later on the Law of attraction versus positive thinking and a positive mind.
What are positive thoughts?
When something bad happens to you, it is almost second nature for people to say: “Stay positive and think positive”. People tend to not take these words seriously, nor do they know what it really, really means and how potent these words can be if applied correctly.
In order to change your thoughts you need to change your attitude and always be optimistic.
Believe me if I say that your change to positive thoughts and attitude do not happen overnight. It takes a lot of talking to your inner self whenever you feel negative.
The first think I always do when something negative happens to me and I feel or think a negative thought, is to sit back and think of something nice, whether it is my favourite song or movie. You must try to immediately delete that negativity from your mind. The power is to not just think positive, but to really feel the positivity in your inner being. This makes the difference and this is what will bring positive circumstances back to you.
Norman Vincent Peale says: “Change your thoughts and change your world”.
In order to fully understand and apply positive thinking to your daily life, it is important to look at the full picture. Let’s start with the Law of Attraction.
What is the Law of Attraction?
This Law states that the thoughts of people (conscious and unconscious) dictate the reality of their lives. It simply means that “if you really want something and truly believe it’s possible, you’ll get it”, but be careful. If you put a lot of thought onto something you don’t want means you’ll probably get that too. You attract into your life whatever you think about.
The reality is that there is only one consciousness, you are that singular consciousness and everything and everyone in your reality happens because of your thoughts.
This is to me where positive thought come into play. If you think positive thoughts, positive things will come your way, but if you think negative thoughts, negative things will come your way.
We all know that the scientific Law of attraction states that what goes “up” must come “down”, and so the Law of attractions also states that what you “think” about and “feel” about, will come true, irrespective whether the result is good or bad. Thoughts are things. Your thoughts, what you believe and your feelings are real.
Being persistent, you will in time teach your mind to think positively and ignore negative thoughts. Bear in mind that the Law of attraction it not a way of getting rich quickly without doing anything.
If you would like to start applying the Law of attraction to your life, you will sometimes, just like I have experiences, feel as if you think positively about what you want, but still in the long run don’t achieve the results. You then become negative because you are not seeing the wanted results.
Here are a few steps that I have also applied in my life, not to fall into the grip of negative thoughts.
You need to have total motivation and commitment if you want to achieve the goal you set for yourself.
- Learn to recognize and use an opportunity if and when it arises.
- You must take the necessary steps. Do not wait for luck to fall from the sky. You must work hard for your desires if you want it to materialize. Stay focussed, visualize and be willing to do physical word to achieve results.
- Always create a feeling of hope and excitement for yourself.
- Appreciate what you already have. By doing this you will already feel good even if you strive for more.
- Always be aware of your feelings. Feeling bad you move away from what you want, feeling good you move towards what you want. Always boost your self esteem.
You need Optimism if you want positive thoughts!
“The optimist proclaims that we live in the best of all possible worlds; and the pessimist fears this is true.” –James Branch Cabell-
I always use this simple explanation if someone asks me what an optimist is. You should recognize this.
Take a glass and fill it up, only half-way. Now! Will you say the glass is half full or half empty? If you are optimistic then your answer would be, “Half full”, being pessimistic your answer will be, Half empty”. The philosophic explanation, “full” as positive, “empty” as negative.
Ø An optimist does not always assume the worst, they look for the light at the end of the tunnel.
Ø Do not think about what is happening to you, but how to make it happen the way you want it to.
Ø An optimist evaluates a situation, looks at possibilities on how to improve, sets new goals and moves on.
Stay motivated with positive thinking.
A positive mind equals happiness, joy, good health and achieving success with every situation and action. You will not be able to achieve anything if you are not motivated enough. Staying motivated by means of positive thinking go hand in hand, The one can not be successful without the other.
Lou Holtz has a very clear explanation. He says: “Ability is what you are capable of doing. Motivation determines what you do. Attitude determines how well you do it”.
Ø Avoid pessimists, cynical people and people who always complain. Do not let them drag you down to their level. If you allow this, your motivation will disappear.
Ø Be friends with exiting and active people. You will never be bored and most of all you will stay motivated.
Ø Dream about your future, this always keeps me motivated.
Ø By thinking and being clear about your goal, writing it down and reading articles about the subjects of your goal, will keep you motivated and determined.
Ø Always think of solutions, not problems.
Ø Think about what you have achieved and done, and not what you haven’t achieved yet.
Ø Be happy and smile as often as possible.
My mother of 63 years was diagnosed with breast cancer 4 years ago. Because of this and the fact that it can also happen to me, this subject is very close to my heart.
Symptoms of Breast Cancer.
My mother had no other symptoms except for the lump she felt in her right breast. It sounds strange, but she was lucky to feel a lump because some lumps are too small to feel or to cause a change in a breast. This is the dangerous part, not fighting breast cancer in time before it can do irreversible harm to your body.
The first sign of breast cancer is normally a lump that was not there before or a mass in the breast that you or your doctor can feel. Unfortunately a lump that is painless, hard and has uneven edges is more likely to be cancer. Also keep in mind that these changes to a breast can also be less serious and not cancerous like an infection or a cyst.
This is why it is very important for a woman to go for a mammogram (x-ray of the breast) once a year, especially after the age of 40 years. Any abnormal area can be seen on a mammogram
The following are also symptoms of breast cancer.
- Breast pain
- Nipple pain or the nipple turning inward
- The nipple discharging other fluids than breast milk
- Redness or thickening of the nipple or breast skin
- A lump in the underarm area
- Swelling of all or part of the breast
- Skin irritation or dimpling on the breast
What causes breast cancer?
After a lot of research and research still under way, it is still very difficult for doctors to determine the cause of breast cancer and how to prevent it. Why it happens to one woman and not the other.
Doctors are learning day by day how external and internal environments affect breast cancer.
External environment for example the water you drink and food you eat, the air you breathe, the medicines you take and whether you smoke or not.
Internal environment for example the genes you got from your parents, hormones and illnesses.
Whether external or internal, some of these factors have a direct effect on breast cancer.
Let met explain to you two factors that are commonly used when referring to or talking about breast cancer.
Firstly the risk factor: Anything that would increase your chance of getting breast cancer, is known as the risk factor.
The protective factor: Anything that could reduce your risk of getting breast cancer, is known as the protective factor.
How can I reduce my risk of getting breast cancer?
Some risk factors you can control, for example:
Ø Being overweight. It is very important to loose the excess weight. This can reduce your risk of getting breast cancer, especially for woman after menopause. Why? Because fatty tissue is the body’s main source of estrogen after menopause. This happens after the ovaries stop producing hormones. Always remember higher estrogen levels, increases your risk of getting breast cancer.
Ø Make your own informed choices about the medicines you take. Always do research, educate yourself about the side effects.
Ø Have control over your physical activities and alcohol consumption. Alcohol drunk by women limit’s the liver’s ability to control blood levels for the hormone estrogen, which can increase the risk of cancer.
Ø Do exercise. There is growing evidence that shows that exercise can reduce the risk of breast cancer.
Ø Taking combined hormone replacement therapy namely estrogen and progesterone for several years or taking estrogen alone for an ongoing period of ten years without any doubt is a very high risk factor for breast cancer, because the female hormone, estrogen already stimulates breast cell growth.
Ø Be careful when using oral contraceptives for an unlimited time. Studies show that this birth control pill slightly increases the risk of breast cancer.
Which risk factors do I have no control over?
Ø Being a woman. Although breast cancer can also be present in men, the breast cells of women are always changing and growing because of the female hormones estrogen and progesterone.
Ø Aging. From the age of 30-39 the risk of getting breast cancer is 43%.It increases by more that 4% after the age of 60 years of age.
Ø Breast cancer history in your family. If your mother or sister had breast cancer or ovarian cancer before the age of 50 years, your risk of getting breast cancer is higher.
Ø Radiation therapy to the chest. Any radiation therapy during childhood especially during the teen years when the breasts were still developing, increases the breast cancer risk.
Ø Changes in breast cells, during a breast biopsy can be a risk factor. Biopsy is the removal of tissue for examination under a microscope.
The fear of breast cancer recurrence!
My mom will be finishing her cancer hormone treatment this year. Since she was diagnosed with breast cancer 4 years ago, she has been going for mammogram’s yearly as well as blood tests. All this tests needs to be done to make sure that the breast cancer will not be coming back and if so, to get the necessary treatment in time.
This is a fear my mom has been living with since the day she got informed that she had breast cancer and even after she had her mastectomy and was cleared, she still has this fear of the cancer recurring.
If breast cancer comes back, it may come back in the same place or in different areas of the body, for example:
v the chest wall
v the liver
v the brain
v the lymph modes
v the bones
v the lungs or around the lungs
v the breast or the area where the breast used to be.
Just to get more scientific, here’s a list of the 3 general locations. This is the words that a doctor will use when explaining your type of breast cancer recurring:
Local: meaning in the breast where it started the first time, the area where the breast used to be or in the skin and underlying tissues.
Regional: means in the lymph nodes next to the breast. After diagnosed with breast cancer this will also be the first place where tests will be done to establish whether the cancer had not spread to the lymph nodes under the arms.
Metastatic: meaning in another part of the body, like the lungs, liver etc.
How to cope with the fear or recurring breast cancer.
Ø Always stay informed, keep on reading, investigate tests, procedures and treatments done and following up information regarding breast cancer. The more informed you are, I think, will somewhat undermine your fear.
Ø Have a great relationship with your doctor. You must feel comfortable discussing your situation and your feelings with this doctor whenever your feel like it.
Ø Always, always stay calm and positive, even if it is difficult to do so every day. You will without knowing it transform your positive thoughts into positive energy. Trust me, you will feel better.
Ø Join a cancer group that knows how you are feeling. In this group you can exchange stories and find solutions. Nobody else will know exactly how you feel, except for that other person that has gone through the same trauma.
My child’s teeth!
It is important to care for your child’s teeth from an early age. This will ensure your child growing up with healthy teeth and gums. This means even wiping your baby’s gums after feeding with a soft damp cloth in order to prevent bacteria build-up.
Three important issues to always remember when you think about your child’s teeth!
Ø Regular visits to the dentist.
Ø Your child’s diet, what your child should and should not eat. Keep away from sugary or acidic food and drinks.
Ø Oral hygiene, when to brush teeth and how often. Teach your child from a young age to spit out toothpaste and not rinse with water. This will reduce the effect of fluoride.
Interesting facts about your child’s teeth!
Your child’s teeth start developing before birth. I child firstly gets milk teeth, thereafter permanent teeth.
A child’s milk teeth are important for speech, smile, eating and mostly for confidence. Looking after a child’s milk teeth will ensure the healthy development of the permanent teeth.
A child usually has 20 milk teeth by the age of three years, starting to come out through the gums at about six months of age. The last milk teeth will fall out by the age of 12 years.
If you as a parent do not look after your child’s permanent teeth and teach them the right from wrong, these teeth might get damaged or even need to be removed. Unfortunately there are not another set of teeth to replace the ones lost.
From the age of six years your child’s permanent teeth will start to erupt and as an adult have 32 permanent teeth.
Cavities and your child’s teeth.
What is a cavity?
Cavities are holes in the teeth formed from germs, a more scientific word is bacteria, using the sugary foods that they eat, to form acid. This acid then eats away at the teeth.
How to stop cavities and bad teeth?
- Brush teeth regularly to prevent the acid from eating away at teeth.
- If your child is capable to do so, it is very important to teach them how to floss once a day.
- Learn your child the importance of brushing teeth twice a day, in the morning and before bedtime.
- Twice a year visits to the dentist are essential. You get children who are scared and traumatised of a dentist and are unable to sit quietly in the dentist chair. My child was one of those children. My dentist and I diarized two visits per year and my child’s teeth were checked, fixed and cleaned under anaesthetic at our local hospital up until the age of 7 years. Thereafter my child himself decided to go to the dentist office without being traumatized.
- Avoiding sweets, fizzy drinks and between-meal snacks is good advice but much harder to do. Rather try teeth friendly snacks like fruits and vegetables.
- Never put your baby to bed with a bottle of juice, only if it contains plain water.
If the liquid for example stays in contact with the child’s teeth for a long period of time, the sugars cause tooth decay.
What to use to clean your child’s teeth!
Toothpaste and a toothbrush.
You get special toothbrushes for babies as well as for growing children.
When your child is the right age, teach him/her to clean their teeth by applying small circular movements.
The mineral in our toothpaste is called fluoride. This fluoride strengthens the tooth enamel.
Older children can chew sugar-free gum after meals, gum containing Xylitol, because this prevents tooth decay.
For a small child you get disclosing tablets. This is small pills, if chewed for 30 seconds, turn the plaque into a bright colour, usually pink. This will help show your child the areas that he/she have been missing when brushing.
What is Asthma and how would I know if my child has asthma?
The majority of people are unaware of the symptoms of asthma.
When a child for example has a constant cough, it normally gets associated with flu, especially if there is no history of asthma present in the family.
Asthma can be genetically inherited.
- Coughing is normally a symptom that is commonly overlooked.
- Frequent colds or chestiness may also be asthma related.
- A child with a weak chest may also be asthmatic.
Asthma is one of the world’s most common respiratory illnesses in the world today.
It affects one out of ten children out of every twenty adults.
At any stage of your life, ever as an adult, asthma can start, but it normally starts at the age of 5 years. Asthma is most commonly the result of an allergic reaction.
I am speaking out of experience when I tell you that it is not a nice feeling when your child gets diagnosed with asthma. Asthma is always the last condition thought about by a parent.
Causes and triggers of asthma!
- Allergens or pollutants, like preservatives and colorants. This is a less common trigger, but it does exist.
- Environmental pollutants like cigarette smoke or pollen can trigger asthma symptoms.
- Outdoor pollutants from motor cars and factories also trigger asthma.
- Allergy to other products for example milk products can trigger asthma.
- The most common trigger is a cold and flu.
- The weather like cold air can trigger asthma.
- Doing exercise can not trigger asthma, but is very dangerous for a child having asthma as the symptoms are not being controlled. With the collect medication and control methods, any exercise can be performed.
- An infection in the breathing tubes because if a virus, can either start or make the asthma symptoms worse. This asthma condition can persist for even 6 weeks after infection.
- Emotions for example anger and rage can trigger an asthma attack.
- Some common used medication like aspirin and other anti-inflammatory meds can trigger asthma.
The most common asthma symptom!
- It reoccurs constantly and is persistent.
- Coughing always occur in spasms and can result in the child loosing his or her breath.
- Symptom is worse during the night and during exercise.
- It can cause the child to vomit.
Can your child outgrow asthma?
According to medical statistics a child can outgrow asthma by die age of 10 years.
What happens to a child’s lungs during an asthma attack?
Asthma affects the breathing tubes, called the bronchioles, by inflaming the linings of the bronchioles, making it more difficult to breathe. This is where the “wheezing” sound or constant cough comes from.
There is 3 main elements to asthma:
- The inflammation
- The mucous plugging
- The bronchospasm
Let me explain these elements better.
Because of the inflammation, brought on by an allergic reaction, the child’s body produces extra mucous which in return creates mucous plugging and then the child gets bronchospasm. This bronchospasm decreases the size of the breathing tubes called the bronchioles. This creates the wheezing sound when a person with asthma exhales, or a constant cough, mainly at night.
Because of the decreased bronchioles, the child’s body is not able to exhale air in the lungs. This becomes trapped. If this continues, it comes to a point where the asthmatic can not breathe.
How do you treat asthma?
The main aim is to get the breathing tubes to function without any difficulty when breathing.
Just like any other, the affect of medication differs from person to person.
This is also the case when using asthma medication.
Asthma medication will help your child with the following:
- The medication controls the inflammation and stops the coughing or breathlessness at night and in the mornings.
- Medication will treat an asthma attack when it happens, it will give quick relief.
- It will avoid symptoms to trigger asthma.
There are 2 main asthma type medications,
These medications are very important and necessary because it prevents asthma attacks on an ongoing basis.
Corticosteroids are a very important medication because of the fact that it reduces the swelling and the production of mucus in the airways.
These medications relieve asthma symptoms. It relaxes the muscle bands that tighten around the airways. By doing that it opens the airways, letting air come out and into the lungs. Because of this your child will breathe much easier.
These bronchodilators also help clear the mucus form the child’s lungs.
If the airways are open, any mucus build-up can move and be coughed out easily.
These medications can be administered in different ways.
Your child’s asthma and exercise.
There are a lot of children with asthma that develop a tight chest after exercise. Dry and cold air can also be a trigger causing the air pipes in the lungs to narrow. If the air pipes only narrow a little bit, the child will only cough after exercise. If however the air pipes narrow a lot, the chest becomes tight and breathing becomes difficult.
This asthma condition occurs about after 10 minutes of exercise.
After the proper medication the chest will open up.
Preferred exercise for a child with asthma.